Addressing Outer and Inner Envelopes

What goes on the inner and outer envelope. Addressing Clergy, Politicians and Military. IT’S ALL HERE!

ADDRESSING
INVITATIONS
PROPERLY


Proper Forms of Address

After many years I’ve developed my preferred forms of address and that is what is listed below
What goes on the: OUTSIDE ENVELOPE INSIDE ENVELOPE
Married Couple Sherri and Steven Smith
(woman is listed first, man’s first and last name stay together
Mr. and Mrs. Steven Smith
Ms. Sherri and Mr. Steven Smith (man’s first and last name stay together)
Ms. Sherri Davis and Mr. Steven Smith (married with different last names)
Sherri and Steven
Mr. and Mrs. Smith
Ms. and Mr. Smith
Ms Doe and Mr. Smith
Married Couple
Children under 13
Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith Mr. and Mrs. Smith 
Rachel and Alex
Married Couple
Children over 13
Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith
(Children over 18 may receive a separate invitation)
Mr. and Mrs. Smith
Miss or Ms. Rachel Smith
Mr. Alex Smith
Brothers or Sisters 
at same address
Messrs. Alex and Stuart Smith 
Misses Rachel and Nancy Smith 
Ms. Rachel Smith and Ms. Nancy Smith
The Messrs. Smith 
The Misses Smith
Ms. Smith and Ms. Smith
Divorced Woman
or separated
Ms. Audrey Miller
Mrs. Audrey Miller
Ms. Audrey Smith (maiden name restored)
Ms. Miller 
Mrs. Audrey Miller
Ms. Smith
Widow Mrs. John Miller  (if recent widow)
Mrs. Audrey Miller
Ms. Audrey Miller
Mrs. Miller 
Mrs. Miller
Ms. Miller
Jr. or junior Mr. Steven Smith, Jr.  (use comma with abbrev.)
or Mr. Steven Smith junior (junior is lower case and spelled out)
Mr. Smith
II, III Mr. Steven Smith III Mr. Smith
Married couple
both Doctors
The Doctors Smith
Doctors Sherri and Steven Smith
Dr. Sherri Davis and Dr. Steven Smith
Dr. Sherri and Mr. Steven Smith
The Doctors Smith
Dr. Davis and Dr. Smith
Wife only has title Dr. Sherri and Mr. Steven Smith Dr. Smith and Mr. Smith
Wife uses
maiden name
Ms. Sherri Davis
   and Mr. Steven Smith
Ms. Davis and Mr. Smith
Two unmarrieds
living together
as a couple
Ms. Sherri Davis
Mr. Steven Smith Mr. Michael Davis
Mr. Steven Smith
Ms. Davis
Mr. SmithMr. Davis
Mr. Smith
Single person
and Guest
Ms. Jamie Smith Ms. Smith and Guest
Addressing Clergy
THE POPE His Holiness (name), Vatican City, Italy
(The Pope will send you a Papal Blessing)
CARDINAL His Eminence, Steven, Cardinal Smith
ARCHBISHOP (RC) The Most Reverend Steven Smith
BISHOP (PE) The Most Reverend Dr. and Mrs. Steven Smith
BISHOP (Methodist) The Reverend Steven Smith and Mrs. Smith
BISHOP (Mormon) Bishop and Mrs. Steven Smith
DEAN (PE) The Very Reverend and Mrs. Steven Smith
CANON (PE) The Reverend Canon and Mrs. Steven Smith
MONSIGNOR The Right Reverend Monsignor Steven Smith
PRIEST The Reverend Father Steven Smith
MINISTER (P) The Reverend Father Steven Smith
SISTER Sister Sherri Smith
BROTHER Brother Steven (or Brother Steven Smith)
RABBI Rabbi and Mrs. Steven Smith
RABBI (with Doctorate) Dr. (or Rabbi) and Mrs. Steven Smith
CANTOR Cantor and Mrs. Steven Smith
CHAPLAIN Chaplain and Mrs. Steven Smith
PROTESTANT 
CLERGY
The Reverend and Mrs. Steven Smith
(woman) The Reverend Sherri Smith and Mr. Steven Smith(2)
(with Doctorate) The Reverend Dr. and Mrs. Steven Smith

 

Addressing ELECTED OFFICIALS


“The Honorable” may be used to address: Cabinet Members; Presidential Assistants; Ambassadors; Judges; All members of Congress; Heads, Assistant Heads and Commissioners of US Government Agencies; Governor and Lieutenant Governor; Secretary of State, Chief Justice and Attorney General of a State; State Treasurer; Comptroller, Auditor, State Representative; Assemblyman or Delegate; Mayor; Members of City Council; Commissioners; etc.

(example)

(woman) The Honorable and Mrs. Steven Smith
The Honorable Sherri and Mr. Steven Smith

DID YOU KNOW?
…If you are using first names, the woman comes first and the man’s first and last name stay together.
…If you are using titles, the person with the title is listed first.
…If only one of the two unmarried names lives at that address, that person is listed first.
…If one person is invited to the event and the other is their guest or escort,
the person you know is listed first.
…If you are addressing two men or two women,
you might list names in alphabetical order.
………………………………………………….
addressing THE PRESIDENT of the UNITED STATES

The President and Mrs. Smith
(woman) The President and Mr. Steven Smith (2)
The White House, Washington, D.C. 20500
The White House will send you an official greeting.

 Colleges President (or Chancellor) and Mrs. Steven Smith
Dr. and Mrs. Steven Smith
(woman) Dr. Sherri and Mr. Steven Smith
Dean (or Dr.) and Mrs. Steven Smith
(woman) Dean (or Dr.) Sherri and Mr. Steven Smith

MILITARY TITLES

(title) Lieutenant and Mrs. Steven Smith
(woman) Lieutenant Sherri and Mr. Steven Smith